My Queen Writes...

and i agree:

The fire grows hotter... baring one's soul, burning away the outer shell and revealing the soul of the submissive. 

It is there in those quiet moments of reflection I know... I am but a slave to Her... my One. Whatever She commands... whatever She orders... I comply. 

It is in this obedience and devotion that I find my true self... the self I keep hidden away that I reveal to Her.... 

I am free in this time, my time with her as she pulls forth from me the deep feelings that pour from my soul and mind. As they flow and become one I lose all thought of me and accept that I am but a reflection of what She wants and has guided me to becoming.

cooking with gas

Father's day, and we enjoyed a lot of quiet time together today. My main goal today was to grill up a series of meat and links for the week. Outside, beatiful day, start of summer, and with my Enchantress.... life is pretty damn good...

Meeting the Needs of a slave

I recently joined a social website for kinksters like me. FetLife which which has some interesting discussion groups and bulletins. Kind of like a combination of what used to be good about yahoo groups, along with a VERY WELL moderated discussion group.

One of the posts I came across today was submitted by Norische which I think is worth publishing. What do you think?

"Meeting the Needs of a Slave" By Mistress Norische

There are many things that a slave needs. Some think that a slave has no needs; that once a slave becomes owned he has all he will ever need. I beg to differ; I have found in my experience that there are several things a slave needs.

Communication. .. A slave needs to be able to communicate with his owner and to have his owner communicate and actively listen to him. A slave needs to feel as if what they have to say has meaning, and is important.

Service... A slave is like a well-made tool, to be used and used well. If a tool is allowed to set in a box somewhere unattended it will rust or become obsolete. A slave must be allowed to serve in order to sharpen his skills and gain experience.

Purpose... As with any individual a slave needs to have a purpose, a reason for his existence.

Structure... A slave needs to be surrounded by structure, order, and discipline. Chaos may lead to change and variety, but within the life of a slave it leads to fear and uncertainty.

Appreciation. .. A slave needs to know his efforts are appreciated and that he is needed. If a slave goes without this form of support then the self-esteem of the slave becomes questionable and hence his performance will suffer.

Discipline.. . A slave expects and needs discipline. This does not mean taking a strap to a slave if he forgets to end a sentence with Ma'am or Goddess. It means the slave must know what is expected of him , know what is unacceptable and understand the consequences of any deviation of behavior or action. The worst discipline you can bestow on a slave is to not to allow him to serve, or to ignore him.

Safety... A slave must know they are safe. I may hurt my slaves but I will never harm them. A slave has the right to expect a safe, healthy environment…both physically and emotionally.

Respect... A slave must understand respect and in turn be treated with respect. As an individual everyone deserves some respect, a slave is no different. Just as the owner requires a certain amount of respect so therefore does the slave.

Honesty... A slave has the right to expect his owner to always be honest with him. To tell a lie is not only dishonorable but it also shreds the fine fabric of trust that is formed between a slave and an owner.

Trust... A slave must be able to trust his owner. This is achieved with time, knowledge and experience. Trust is something build brick by brick, but when that trust is broken those bricks become made of smoke and will not support a relationship.

These are the things that a slave needs. You notice nowhere did I state a slave needs a collar, a contract, scening, sex or money.

A collar is a symbol, it may represent ownership but there is no color in the world that can replace trust or safety. Hence while it may be a symbol cherished by all who proudly wear their owner's symbol, it is a want and not a need.

A contract is no more than a piece of paper, an agreement made between individuals based on a common goal. There is no contract that can keep a slave from leaving when he feels he is not needed or wanted.

Sceneing is something done for the entertainment of one or more parties involved. Some enjoy it; some do not. Never the less sceneing is no more important that buying a pretty new dress for the picnic, or getting the latest Harry Potter book. It is a luxury or a reward it is not a need.

Sex like Sceneing may or may not be present within a relationship. There are slaves that are specifically trained to be of sexual service. However, not all slaves are maintained for sexual reasons. Sex is option, not a need.

Money is irrelevant, while it does ease the mind of an individual. Money will not ease the mind of a slave; it is not about money it is about purpose and service, and appreciation. Money cannot buy pride; it can only buy things.

So as you can see the needs of a slave are not object, nowhere in the above list did I state a slave needs to be well dressed, hell there are many owners who don't allow the slave to wear clothing at all. Nowhere does it state that a slave needs his own room, a slave should be honored if he is given the privilege to sleep at the foot of his owner's bed. It doesn't state that the slave needs to go tanning or get a haircut or manicure or go to the fitnesss club once a week, these things are rewards not needs. It doesn't state that a slave needs to be able to use the computer, watch TV or play video games either, again these are rewards not needs, and again these are mere things… nothing can make a slave feel better than a simple acknowledgement.

For the owner to sit the slave down and say, "With all the work you have done today getting ready for my guests, I honestly don't know what I would do without you." this simple statement will mean more to a slave than anything that can be purchase with money or plastic. While they are quite simple, a slave does indeed have needs, and it is for the benefit of the owner to remember this and take care of all the slave's needs.


Thoughts?

sunday morning

This is an early morning for us... We are headed into Dallas area to spend some time with Her family and to enjoy six flags. There are two precious little girls who will accompany us, and for whom we have designed this trip. It is quite exciting to be able to give to the little ones, and to see them come up, grow and change as life occurs for them.

In my own way, I wish to support them and help them find their own path early in life and knowing that as females, they can be empowered and feel free early on and not bound by the constraints of previous generations of females in this society.

As to Enchantress, i love Her, support Her and today's goal will be to serve Her as a spouse and as Her slave. To help Her enjoy Her time and life with me.

The Joy of being a knight

I was surfing on the net today and came across this site. seems that there are a lot of folks out there who are into the concept of a Female using the male's sesxual /psychic energy as a way to focus him on Her. I continue moving in that direction with Enchantress, and hope to be a good knight now.

desperate feelings

This morning, I am feeling quite desperate for some relief. There is a lot of tension in my body and I am so so tempted to break faith with Enchantress and myself. She has been working a lot lately and we have had a fair amount of family. Thus i do not find myself as intensely involved with Her as I have been and would like to be. Perhaps this desperate feeling will pass. I hope that it does without my touching Her property and relieving my tension in that way..

Rainy days and time inside

On Thursday morning, it is raining and very wet today. We live east of Dallas, where they had Tornado warnings last night. So the rain came to us today. Now it is quiet and serene with the elecricity out for a few hours.

It is amazing what difference is there when there is NO electrical stuff going on. no ipods, no computers, no tv, no lights, no airconditioning. Simple silence and time to reflect. With my Queen working hard this week, we have not had a lot of time to spend together, though what we have had is nice and sweet.

She has been spending a fair amount of time reminding me lately that the objective of Her life is to be easy, sweet, un-stressed as possible, and for me to serve Her in ways which make that possible. I am wondering today what else I can do to move back into the right direction with Enchantress....

Needs and Fetishes

As this is a journey, there are twists and turns in our life. In my dreams for a long time, and more passionately than in a long long time, i have a burning to be locked in steel by my Sweet Keeper... To be completely unable to touch, see, or manipulate Her Property.

Does anyone understand how compelling this desire can be?

a while. an update. some thoughts

Sure has been a while. We have had some progress in our time together, and we have had some real setbacks. I lost my job earlier this year (I know that I am not the only one....). The result has been dramatic in terms of my time, our money, and the dynamics of Enchantress and Her ranger.

Money is ok, but we are being VERY careful at this time. I have gained the benefit of having a lot more time to be with Her, which we both enjoy very much. At the same time, I have had some issues dealing with the concept of not being the primary provider at this time. She has been amazing and supportive. Since we both know that All of the money in our life is Her Money, there is not an issue of sharing. She makes the decisions on finances, and I do most of the legwork.

We have been back to the boats a few times in the last 6 months, but never have duplicated the win we had back in December. No surprise there. The most difficult thing for me is to know that we will be fine and eventually this job loss will end up being a great positive in my life and more importantly in our life together.

One thing that I have struggled with is the concept of husband vs slave in my relationship with Enchantress. She has asked me many times over the last year which I consider myself primarily. I answer honestly that I first consider myself to be Her slave, and then to be Her husband. I know that is true in my heart, but in our life together, we have a LOT of daily maintenance and family and freinds things which seem "ordinary" or "vanilla". Sometimes I find it difficult to rise above that and continue in my journey towards Her in my life as Her possession.

Lately I have had the thought that I can not be a good husband for Enchantress, unless I am first a good slave. Being a good slave means to let go my concerns to the degree possible. and focus on Her Goals, Her Life, Her Well-Being, and to be obedient and cheerful (or "sweet natured" as She calls it). This realization has helped me tremendously. One of the repercussions is that I feel re-dedicated to my goal to support My Queen, to Love Her unconditionally, and to surrender more and more easily each day.

Another day in our life

We have been exploring the relaxing side of life which includes going to the local casino, and spending pennies, trying to make dimes.  When we were in New Mexico and went to a new casino, we had a good time, and won with our pennies.  Also enjoyable in New Mexico was the non-smoking section of the casino there.    We learned a few new games, and enjoyed our vacation there immensely.

Now to the present.  We went to the local casino with a friend of ours, mostly to unwind and enjoy a well needed time off.  The first night, we dug ourselves a little hole, even spending pennies.  Pennies added up, and we were not feeling too well.  Fortunately, we stayed overnight and came back the next day (to a different casino).  Well short story long, is that we hit the big jackpot, and came away with enough money to help enjoy our Christmas season..  ho ho ho, and merry xmas to all who are reading as well...

The Enchanted Ranger, and his Queen, Enchantress....